Sometimes you just need to sit down. Take the weight off.
Why the word step? Why the word mother?
The word step creates a distance. A hurdle. A physical barrier to cross to get to the destination.
Mother. Well that just summons a million emotions! It is a revered word. A life giver. A home. A nest. A protector.
Most step moms give it all. They protect, love, shield, play, clean up after, drive and cook for their step kids.
All things “motherly”.
BUT…the but. The hiccup. The eyes that say you aren’t my mom. You are my Dad’s wife. You are a good listener. You are sometimes my friend. You are a good cook. But…
Being a step mom is one of the hardest things I have ever done. And that is a consistent refrain that I have heard from the emails I have received since the publication of my memoir, Stepmother.
Does the label of stepmother create more hardship from the get go? Have we made it harder by assigning a name that creates distance, a hurdle and already belongs to another?
As I sit, I ponder.